The quality I admire most in others, the one character trait I wish for our children and the word I’d love for our family to be defined by is kindness.
My friend just told me this weekend that in a study of what makes marriages last, the biggest factor was kindness. Honesty, communication, love – these are all good things. Kindness is like all of these wrapped into one. It’s defined as the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate.
Isn’t that the type of person you want to be around? That you want to be married to? That you want your children to be?
I would say I’m a kind person – at least most of the time. I am friendly. I am mostly generous. I try to be considerate.
At barre class a few weeks ago, I had this sweet moment with God. I became aware that although I am kind to others, I am terribly mean to myself. I say critical, inconsiderate things in my head without even realizing. I tell myself I must be perfect. That if I’m not perfect, I’m a failure. That I need to do more and strive more and work harder to prove my worth. That if I’m not able to do it well, I should not even try.
I actually say these rude things to myself! Things I would never say to a friend and words I don’t even believe to be true.
I love that the Lord opened my mind to recognize the ways I am unkind to myself. It has become a theme these past few weeks and a message I keep seeing/hearing time and time again.
Be kind. To others. And to yourself.
Being kind to myself looks like a lot of things:
+ speaking truthful words to myself instead of critical lies
+ accepting my body and being grateful for strength and health instead of focusing on the flaws
+ filling myself with healthy, nourishing food instead of eating junk and then feeling even worse
+ taking time to quiet my soul instead of rushing through and keeping busy
+ laughing instead of taking life so seriously
+ spending quality time with my family instead of being half-engaged
While ordering flowers for my grandma last week (I like to do this for her every few months just to make her smile. See?! I can be kind!) I saw these orange ranunculus.
Orange ranunculus would look so bright and cheerful in our house, I thought. It’s so gray and gloomy outside and a bouquet of pretty flowers sure would make me happy.
So you know what I did? I decided to splurge on myself as an act of kindness and I ordered those orange ranunculus. It was such a good decision.
Just one little way I’m learning to be kind to myself.
I think I could get used to this.
What have you done for yourself lately as an act of kindness? I’d love to hear …
P.S. I ordered the flowers from The Bouqs. This is my second time ordering from them and I’ve been so happy every time. Sending flowers can be ridiculously expensive and the arrangements are not even good! This is not the case with The Bouqs. They have classy bouquets and pretty flower/greenery combinations and shipping is free. So the next time you need to order flowers for a friend, your grandma or yourself, The Bouqs gets my stamp of approval.
(I spent my own money on the flowers and will definitely order again. These links are referral links so when you click on the link, I’ll earn a small commission. Much love to you if you do :) )