advent calendars
This is what I wanted to do for my kids for our advent calendar this year:
I was going to make bags like I did for Audrey’s birthday favors using my chevron printable paper, then create cute number stickers and hang them as a banner in the kitchen. I would fill them with trinkets and treats and they would open them with delight each morning.
Instead, they are getting these:
Store-bought $2.99 calendars with a crazy looking Santa on them and cheap chocolates hiding in each cut out.
To tell you the truth, they will probably adore the chocolates and won’t know the difference between a handcrafted advent calendar and one that I picked up at the craft store. The point is, it’s a countdown to the best holiday of the year and gives them something to be excited about each day.
This blog post was not supposed to be about my deep thoughts around crafting advent calendars. I was going to show all kinds of great advent calendar ideas in case you wanted to put one together before tomorrow. But sometimes you just have to go with it when your heart takes you elsewhere.
Here’s the thing: I know my kids appreciate when I put extra effort into creating things for them. But most of the time, they could not care less if their gifts are wrapped beautifully or their birthday treats for school have hand-painted fondant flowers on them {okay, clearly I have not made these for my boys, but you get the point}. The over-the-top parties and themed bedroom remodels are amazing, but I’m not convinced that’s how children receive love. I’m pretty sure they just want us to hang out with them.
How often do I do something for the kids that really is just for me?
There is a balance to be found because I am all for creating and making life more beautiful through handmade details. But was my advent calendar idea really for my babes? Or was it because I thought it would look cute hanging in my kitchen? {it was the latter, in case you didn’t guess}.
I have abandoned the advent bag idea mostly because I just couldn’t get it put together in time. But now that I think about it, I am realizing that the whole point of an advent is to spend time together anticipating the celebration of the birth of Jesus. We don’t need a fancy calendar to do this.
Nope, we’ll happily be eating cheap chocolates from the crazy Santa calendars this year.



















Gina Diamond
Well said.
Jennifer
It’s so refreshing to see such a well followed blogger ‘keep it real’! So many times we get caught up in the perfectness of the blogging world, and find ourselves run ragged trying to achieve the same perfectness for our own family. In reality, they just want us….not a busy body who has no time to spend with them because we’re trying to make their life perfect (what a contradiction!). Thank you for your honesty and grounded thoughts!
Karrianne
I love it!
rachel in Cali.
Oh my gosh! Thanks so much for the reality check and honesty!
So true!!
Thanks for sharing!
rachel
Kristel
Totally agree with you on this one!
kayce hughes
I think that your kids are blessed to have a mom that is honest with herself. Better than a beautiful font or chocolate!
Jewel
We are doing the cheap chocolate advent calendars at our home too. Actually, my kids love them. I remember as a kid, I had to share one chocolate calendar with my 2 brothers so I am spoiling my kids by giving them each their own chocolate calendar! You are right, I think we do many things for ourselves – we need to slow down and stop the madness!
Brie Oshiro
I’m actually in the middle of finishing my advent calendar! Haha you’re timing is impeccable. I cut out squares and sewed them all onto a backing fabric last night and now I have to embellish and fill each pocket. It’s super cute, totally our/my style and my hubby is actually pretty stoked about it!! He’s so thrilled I’m making it for our family and it’s something we can treasure year after year. He joked about filling it each month LOL I don’t think he was joking though… I do tend to get wrapped up in the details though and as my son gets older (he’s 2 now) I’m seeing it’s us he wants, not lights on the garage and a ton of other decorations around the house. Great post and thanks for the perspective <3
Dakota
I love this post! I know how you feel about wanting things to be aesthetically pleasing, but you’re right, kids don’t care, nor do they even notice for the most part! I love that you are keeping it real and enjoying time with your children. They will adore their Santa advent calendars!
Delishhh
I am totally in love with advent calendars – when i grew up it was huge and we used to have a calendar that matched a tv show it was awesome. Check out these advent calendars so cute – http://www.splendidwillowavenue.com/product/danish-garland-calendar-1-24-pockets
LeeAnn Clawson
I pinned a quote this week that fits this perfectly! “Children will not remember you for the material things you provided, but for the feeling that you cherished them.” -Richard L. Evans
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Isn’t that just perfect! Let’s all remember this during our Christmas shopping!
Tonya
Seriously … I LOVE your blog. Thanks for always making my day better with one more smile!
Gina
I am laughing as I am reading this! I always have big plans for a homemade advent calendar and this year we are using the $.99 ones from trader joes! They kids are just excited for the chocolate….i know I really would much rather look at the “prettier” version, but there is always next year!
Cathy Lee
Funny… I just did a post on an advent chain myself. You might like this idea too. It really points back to the “reason for the season”.
http://www.spelloutloud.com/2009/11/advent-chains-easy-christmas-craft.html
Melissa
This is exactly what I needed to read…thank you. And Merry Christmas!! Love your blog. =)
Monica
this is so funny and i tell you why…my grandson is too young to be excited about christmas and i have seen some of the cutest advent calendars on blogs and pinterest and wanted to make one. i decided to make one for my great-niece using baby food jars i have. my plan was to put a note for each day about the birth of Jesus plus have a little surprise (chocolate). well long story short the surprises got in there but her mom (my niece) will just have to tell her the story in her own words! oh well! maybe this inspire my niece to do it next year!
Annie
Thanks Emily for this! So true on all fronts and makes me happy that I feel exactly the same!
Ginger
Seriously, each time I read your blog – I think to myself “we would be SUCH good friends”!!!!!!
I constantly have a conversation with you everytime I read….saying things like “Amen”, “you’re so right”, “Girl, I’d LOVE that 365 random question book, too’!!!!
Thank you for blogging and making, not just my day but everyone else’s alittle bit brighter!
Courtney
SO SO SO needed to read that. right now. thanks for sharing!
lauren
Thank you for this post! I too, needed it! I have seen so many cute ideas for advent calendar’s, but my daughter like your children was so happy to see the chocolate advent calendar in the store. At first, I was slightly disappointed, but if she is happy, so am I. By the way, I realized we have more than 25 Christmas themed books (my mom is a retired teacher and book junky), so though I won’t be wrapping them, I am making the effort that we read them all this holiday season, even the ones I would normally pass on.
Katie
THANK YOU, THANK YOU, thank you for this post!!! This is exactly what I needed to hear today!
Deana
I had ideas of granjure as well in making my advent calendar… But alas I will be using our wooden advent box from ll bean that we fill the tiny drawers with chocolates or toys I get from bubblegum machines! So ow I don’t feel as bad that I didn’t get that done. Thanks for keeping it real!
Monica
Agreed! Who needs more things on their already busy to do list anyways?
Anna
So true! I often think my son would rather have the time spent together than the time I spend creating some craft for a birthday or holiday.
Summer Wilda
Thank you for a simple and sweet reminder of the importance of ‘just being together’. That is really what our ‘littles’ want from us. Love the crafts. Love the sentiments. Love the focus on family. Thank you!
Kristen
I had the same thing – all these GREAT ideas for a advent calendar and they are getting the cheap Santa and Teddy Bear ones! And they were REALLY excited! BUT I did stumble onto this amazing advent idea you might want to do with your kids – http://daniellesplace.com/html/christmas_page2.html about 3/4 down the page there is a 24 day countdown to Christmas with each day an idea for a trinket (a quarter, a candy etc) a reason for it and a bible verse to read! Really cool.
amelia cullern
Don’t worry too much about doing things just because you will enjoy doing it!
Every year my mum would make a big snowman out of boxes and cotton wool and fill it with presents. and as a kid i would just pull it apart and rush to the presents inside. However now i’m older (31!) i’m so inspired by her! She still makes the showman every year and it what i look forward to most (even more than the presents nowadays!). her creativity is inspiring!
April
So true. It is easy to get caught up in creating the beauty and then forgetting the reason. From reading your post I have a feeling you do a good job of balancing it out. A.
Chelsea
…made me smile.
Jen Hartranft
Right on sista….right on!
sara @ it's good to be queen
this is so good. i struggle with this same thing. am i putting them off so that i can blog about our life so they can enjoy it in the future, when they want me present right. now? and yes, i do so many projects that are for me and they do think it’s nice, but would be just as happy with a punch out weird santa advent card.
oh sigh…it’s a struggle.
have a lovely friday…
sara @ it's good to be queen
p.s. here’s our simple advent calendar we’re doing this year…cute paper chain with themes and verses each day to focus on JESUS.
http://queen-of-the-house.blogspot.com/2011/12/its-december-first.html
shannon b
LOVE this post! I’m all for keeping it simple and keeping the focus on the kids and what’s really important.
Carey
I just stumbled across your blog from A Place of Quiet Rest. I picked up these advent calendars too. I was so excited when I found them because my Grandmother gave them to me as a kid! I loved them then and my kids do too. Thanks for the post.