Coffee Chat Episode 25 | LIVE for the first time

We’re starting something new around here … Coffee Chat Live!

Rather than my regular recorded video, I’m inviting you to join me live (online) each Tuesday at 11am pst. Yesterday was our first time meeting and it went so well!

The plan is to do the live coffee chats on Tuesdays and then I’ll repost the video here on Wednesdays with all of the links we talk about in the video. Maybe once per month we’ll do an evening edition to make sure those of you who can’t tune in during the day can have a chance to hang out live.

A couple of notes about this first video:

I started recording just a few minutes before we officially began, so you can either listen from the start or skip to 4:08 where we really begin.

Also? I feel like I went a little deeper and more vulnerable than I meant to on this one. I mean, this is very true of me – I do love talking about meaningful, tender topics but I don’t always do it on the blog OR on a video for all to hear. But, hey, my hope for these coffee chats is for us to feel like we’re sitting together having a conversation and quite often these are truly the things I talk with my real life friends about.

At around 18:40 is where the question and answer part begins. Again, feel free to stick around for as long as you have time for.  I loved answering the questions and look forward to hearing your thoughts as well!

Alright … grab a cup of coffee and let’s chat.


  • My new morning routine is including a new devotional called NEW MORNING MERCIES by Paul Tripp. So good.
  • I’m giving the MOMENT app a try to help me monitor my phone use. I can’t decide if I love it or not, but it has been interesting to see how often my phone is my go-to when I’m trying to fill time.
  • This is my CHOCOLATE CHIP COOKIE RECIPE that I’m pretty proud of. You can get a FREE ILLUSTRATED RECIPE CARD here.
  • This SALTED CHOCOLATE CHIP COOKIE recipe from SMITTEN KITCHEN was very, very good. Maybe better texture than my regular recipe, but the dough was not quite as tasty. But I still say try both.
  • And definitely sprinkle FLAKED SEA SALT on your chocolate chip cookies from now on.
  • A list of my FAVORITE PODCASTS
  • I’m currently reading CALLING ME HOME.
  • And soon I’ll re-read THE RED TENT.
  • We talked a lot about the Enneagram in this episode and I am always happy to chat more about it! It’s been a really helpful tool for me in helping me identify my strengths and weaknesses and tendencies and desires. I feel grateful for the tool and the many books and podcasts that have stretched me this year. To start, take an ONLINE TEST here and read through the descriptions. Then get THIS BOOK or THIS BOOK. And listen to THIS PODCAST episode.
  • That quote I was trying to quote but completely botched:

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Thanks again for all of those who joined me live. I’ll do this every Tuesday at 11am pst and then post the videos here on Wednesdays. If you’d like to get an invite to join the live coffee chat, please join my email list RIGHT HERE.

Thanks for chatting!

39 Responses to Coffee Chat Episode 25 | LIVE for the first time

  1. Taylor January 21, 2018 at 12:56 pm #

    I love chocolate chip cookies! And I love Enneagram Nines (I’m married to one :) My husband and I have seen spiritual directors for years and we always rnecommend it, so I’m happy and excited for you. As for phones … there are lots of ways to help yourself stay off a bit. Having kids, I think it’s obvious the times it’s not wise to get lost in scrolling. I tend to save phone fun for when they are asleep (naptime or bedtime). And then I turn my phone off most nights by 8:30 pm because I’ve noticed that the later it gets, the harder it is to stop scrolling, and I end up staying in there too long. <3

    • emily January 21, 2018 at 10:44 pm #

      So true! I deleted the moment app because it was feeling stressful, but I think just being mindful about not always letting my phone be the filler when I’m not doing anything is good enough :)

  2. Kelly January 20, 2018 at 2:10 pm #

    Love your courage and vulnerability, Emily – thanks for that! I love following you on Instagram and the blog because of how you mix beautiful imagery with meaningful content. I am also a Christian and have found the enneagram to be incredibly helpful in my walk with the Lord (I am an 8). Ian Cron has a podcast called “Typology” and just did a 2 part episode with a 9 that was SO good. Really all of the episodes are good. Keep doing you and thanks for bringing us along for part of the journey!

    • emily January 20, 2018 at 2:59 pm #

      I will go check out that podcast! I

  3. Nicki January 19, 2018 at 7:26 am #

    Hi Emily, It was so good to catch the replay of your live coffee chat. I wanted to mention the First 5 app as another option to a morning devotional. It’s the first thing I look at in the mornings before starting my day and it’s a great bit of scripture to read with limited time in the mornings. I think it takes me 5 maybe 10 minutes at the most to read through.

  4. Melissa Osigian January 19, 2018 at 7:15 am #

    Emily, thank you for sharing so openly. Your soul is beautiful. I could relate to many things you said. I’m very careful and intentional about the bloggers I follow, but you have consistently been on my short list for at least three years.

    On a lighter note, I too have wanted to not have my phone in my bedroom at night. I am having a really hard time finding a pretty/stylish alarm clock that looks nice, is not digital, has a light button so that I can check the time in the middle of the night, and doesn’t have a super loud/obnoxious alarm. (My daughter has one similar to yours. It is cute but very loud.) If you find any pretty alarm clock options, I would love to hear about them. :)

    • emily January 19, 2018 at 11:03 am #

      That is part of why I haven’t fully switched to not using my phone as my alarm – the one I have is cute (from here) but it makes a loud ticking sound that gets a little annoying. I’m going to give it a try and see if I can just deal … but if not, I’ll be on the alarm clock hunt and I’ll be sure to share what I find.

  5. Donna January 18, 2018 at 10:16 am #

    HI Emily! I didn’t get to see this live, so I am thrilled that you posted this video. A couple things:

    1. I cry all the time, so you’re not alone.

    2. You made me cry in this video (good tears!)…I’ve been wondering how you are doing ever since you took that trip to Africa and talked about sitting alone on the bus and losing it and someone (Jen Hatmaker?) coming over to you and asking, “What’s up with that?”

    3. To quote The Help, “You is kind, you is smart, you is important” I will add, “You are inspiring and you are beautiful!” Thank you so much for sharing your story with all of us. I know I needed it!

  6. Megan January 18, 2018 at 12:18 am #

    Unfortunately I work so I couldn’t watch you live. Thanks for posting the video! So fun to listen to and watch!
    Quick random question-did you close your online store? I went to go look at it the other day and didn’t see a link on your website.

    • emily January 18, 2018 at 8:59 pm #

      Here’s the link: https://goods.jonesdesigncompany.com/

  7. Bethany January 17, 2018 at 11:12 pm #

    Enneagrams are really not based on Christianity but a more New Age approach to spirituality. I know Christians try to use it, but it isn’t rooted in truth of Christianity. It would be safer to use the Myers-Briggs test. Those of you who are Catholic, the US Bishops have said you should not use it!

    • Allyson Williams January 19, 2018 at 9:23 am #

      I agree with you, Bethany. There are many ministries headed by ex-New Agers who are warning Christians against using Enneagrams.

      • Taylor January 21, 2018 at 12:49 pm #

        I think this is a case where all truth is God’s truth. Origins of the Enneagram are debated but if some of it is ringing true for praying/discerning Christians then I don’t think we need to throw it out. As with any personality type, or anything at all, we shouldn’t put our hope or identity in this tool. But I don’t think it’s dangerous if we are in community, learning, praying, and seeing all things through Jesus and His redeeming Work.

        • emily January 21, 2018 at 10:46 pm #

          Thank you, Taylor, for your insights! I totally agree with you.

  8. Meg January 17, 2018 at 8:31 pm #


    I love your blog and have read since your youngest and my oldest were babies. I now have four children too and have gone through many morning transitions. I have made lots of rules-but the biggest shift is getting up before the kids. I’m a raging night owl but I get up in time to get ready and have a cup of coffee by myself. Sometimes I sit still and sometimes I read my Bible. I realized recently that I don’t feel more rested if I stay in my perfectly warm and cozy bed longer. Staying in my bed does not equal more restful day. The mornings where I get up and have a second to myself transforms my day. I’m not immediately meeting other people’s needs. I’m starting out slowly and that’s been a huge change for my mornings and my days. I have to get up very early to do that, but if you can get up at 6:30 and do it, then I really encourage you to do it. It took me 1-2 weeks to adjust, but it’s great. (and sometimes I still sleep in!)

    Thanks for sharing.

  9. Clarita January 17, 2018 at 6:55 pm #

    I loved this! And especially what you said about the spiritual coaching and mentoring. That’s so beautiful and powerful! I can relate to a lot of that, and also to the freedom that it brings. <3

  10. Mandi D. January 17, 2018 at 5:59 pm #

    Emily, thanks for sharing so much of yourself on this one, it always helps to know others struggle with the same thoughts you do! Also nice to know I am not the only Mom that tears up all the time. I feel like I am just starting to get into understanding my identity and realizing how far I have to go so I appreciate your thoughts and resources that you shared. Hope I can join live next time!

  11. Stephanie January 17, 2018 at 5:30 pm #

    Thanks for the chat! I would love to recommend the book “Presence” by Amy Cuddy. She had a famous ted talk. The psychologist element is there and it’s been so helpful to me.

    • emily January 17, 2018 at 10:16 pm #

      Thank you for the recommendation! I’ll look her up.

  12. Pam January 17, 2018 at 4:04 pm #

    Thank you for the Coffee Chat episodes, I really enjoy them. I love your authenticity Emily, you’re an inspiration!

  13. Jo Ann Beasley January 17, 2018 at 4:00 pm #

    Truly love your coffee chats. Must have missed the “memo” about the live one (you did amazing), but caught it today! I used New Morning Mercies as a devotional during 2017 and really found it pressed me to think deeper and challenged me to identify areas I needed to grow in or change.

    I am sure you get all kinds of book ideas, but just finished a novel that I think will make my “best of” 2018 reads. The author is from Eugene, OR and a child psychologist – thought you might have a few things in common. The title is Zetty, by Debra Whiting. Alexander (She wrote a book entitled, Loving Your Teenage Daughter – but I couldn’t recommend ti since I never read it).

    Anyway, thanks so much – for always being real and all the helpful tidpits.

    • emily January 17, 2018 at 10:16 pm #

      Oooh, thank you for the book suggestion! I’ll look it up!

  14. Cass January 17, 2018 at 3:42 pm #

    Hi Emily. I always love your Coffee Chats and this as fun too. Two thoughts:
    1) loved that you (I think) flashed Maldon Sea Salt at us – that’s made joy far from where I grew up! So funny that it gets to the US.
    2) if you move from your phone as an alarm, I would love your thoughts or those of other readers on an alarm clock. I am on a perpetual hunt for one that is loud enough to wake me, but not jarring. Doesn’t turn off by itself (I have been known to go back to sleep) and looks pretty on my bedside table. And not too ticky!

  15. Selena Sweeney January 17, 2018 at 3:40 pm #

    Hi Emily! I have been following you for a long time and purchased one of your very first courses. I would love to know how you submitted your Road Trip diary to Magnolia Journal? I have a family photo shoot/dinner that I had photographed that is incredibly meaningful to me and would love to know if you you did a regular submission or they contacted you directly. I have an idea of where to start with this but I am interested in hearing your experience feel free to email me privately at selenamarieevents@gmail.com.
    Thank you from a long time fan of JDC.

    • emily January 17, 2018 at 10:17 pm #

      Hi Selena,

      The editor for Magnolia Journal called me directly for the road trip story. I’m not sure how we got on the radar, but I’m grateful for it!

  16. emi January 17, 2018 at 2:05 pm #

    Thanks for posting this. Yesterday I missed a few minutes into your chat so it was nice to hear the beginning. Thanks for doing this, and just chatting like we were meeting together for coffee. It was fun!

    • emily January 17, 2018 at 10:17 pm #

      Thanks Emi!

  17. Ellie Kirchner January 17, 2018 at 1:48 pm #

    Invite your sister to do a blog about Seattle with you live!

  18. Sherri Farrell January 17, 2018 at 1:14 pm #

    What is a spiritual director? Sounds interesting.

  19. Amy Wathen January 17, 2018 at 1:07 pm #

    The Red Tent is one of my favorite books I’ve read- and more than once. Another fave of mine that you might like (if you’ve never read it) is Year of Wonders. Loved checking out your book list- going to add them to my list.

  20. Judy January 17, 2018 at 12:33 pm #

    I just want to mention that the take a test link – the test costs $12. Thank you for all the links Emily and I just printed your chocolate chip cookie recipe. I was planning to make cookies to mail to our youngest son in NY so will go with your tried and true.

  21. Afton Vander Pol January 17, 2018 at 11:45 am #

    Do you think you guys will do another long road trip?

    • emily January 17, 2018 at 12:15 pm #

      I don’t think so. We knew going into our big trip that it was a once in a lifetime thing. With the kids at the ages they are at now, I can’t imagine a time when it would work out. Maybe once they are out of the house Ryan and I will travel like this again. But we’re okay with saying our road trip was our one and only.

  22. Elise January 17, 2018 at 11:32 am #

    I LOVE the Salted Chocolate Chunk cookies from Not Without Salt. They look similar to Smitten Kitchen’s recipe and it’s definitely worth trying! So delicious!

    • emily January 17, 2018 at 12:15 pm #

      I will have to give them a try!

  23. Joanna L. January 17, 2018 at 10:36 am #

    Thanks Emily. I love this! I am sad I missed the levitate yesterday and hope to snag one soon. I think nix the moment app….live in grace and freedom! :) It’s good to be held accountable but there’s so much mom guilt out there too. :)

    • emily January 17, 2018 at 12:15 pm #

      I am going to delete it today! Too much pressure …

      • Joanna L. January 19, 2018 at 8:36 am #

        Just saw I typed “levitate” ha! Supposed to be lifestream (stupid autocorrect). That just shows you fancy technology sometimes doesn’t have a clue. :)

  24. Irene January 17, 2018 at 9:27 am #

    Have you ever done Myers Briggs personality test (MBTI)?

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