Perhaps the question I receive the most here on the blog is “how do you do it?”

I’m completely flattered by the question and hope to give you some very practical and inspiring tips, but first I must make a little disclaimer:

I am not super-woman.

Women put a lot of pressure on ourselves to do it all and do it all well.   We want to be attractive wives and doting mothers and wise mentors and savvy shoppers and loyal friends : all the while keeping our houses immaculate, whipping up gourmet meals, growing our own vegetables, getting that recommended 30 minutes of cardio a day,  volunteering in our kids’ classrooms, decorating our homes and fitting in some good quality alone time.

And then when we can’t quite master these things, we get down on ourselves, compare our failures against the abundance of other women who seem to be successful and fall into a pit of insecurity – a debilitating feeling of not measuring up.

High expectations are good. Unrealistic expectations are from the devil.

And so, I must first say that I am in the same boat. I have so many things I want to be/do and so many that I think I should be/do and if I don’t get a handle on the truth, then I get into that same ugly tangle of insecurity.

What I’m discovering is that I must first admit that I CAN NOT DO IT ALL.

There, I’ve said it. Now say it with me :


Doesn’t that feel good? Freeing even?

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The truth is, we must make sacrifices in one area to be able to achieve in another.

For instance, sometimes our family eats out so that I don’t have to do dishes.  Sometimes my boys are upstairs for hours playing legos by themselves while I am working.  Sometimes the laundry mounds up well beyond what my grandmother would deem acceptable.  Sometimes I don’t shower for four days.

You get the point and I’m sure you can relate.

So, to answer the question of how I do all that I do, I have to admit that I make plenty of sacrifices.

Okay, now that that is out of the way, let’s dive into the practical ways to carve out time for YOU.

It may sound backwards, but making time for yourself is one of the least selfish things you can do for your family, your friends and you.  You know that old saying “if momma ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy”? It’s really just making the point that the mother is often the one who sets the tone for the entire family.  If you are frazzled and unhappy and unfulfilled, most likely your family has picked up on it and are not functioning at their highest level either.

We decided several months ago to homeschool our children.  Many aspects of homeschool are appealing to us and we felt like this was the right direction for our family.  But as time went on and I began pouring more of myself into my blog and business, I started to have second thoughts.  I was talking with my sisters about it and they both shared their concerns with me.  One said, “I just worry that you will give so much to your kids that you will lose yourself – your own passions and interests outside of them.”  This was a big struggle for me.  While I felt like homeschool was the best thing for our kids educationally, the added responsibility on me to spend a large portion of my time, energy and creativity focused on schooling them would mean I would not have the time, energy and creativity to focus on my hobbies – namely my business.  If I chose not to homeschool because it would require too much of a sacrifice of my own interests would that make me the most selfish woman alive?  Or would our family function better if I was fulfilling my passions?

{For the record, I’m a big fan of homeschool and I’m not saying that if you homeschool, you will not have time for yourself. This was just a conclusion that we came to for our family at this point in time.}

The point is, reflect on your life and make sure that you realize the importance of taking time to focus on you. Whether that means joining a book club or taking a bath, you need to take care of you. Ultimately, the goal here is to free up time for you to pursue your creative passions and turn them into a business – a nearly impossible task if this habit of taking time for you is not incorporated into your daily life.

So how exactly do you make time for yourself when you have so many other responsibilities?

Here is my list of time management lessons:

1. Some things can wait.

Laundry seems to be a big issue for me – it feels like a constant game of catch up that I can never master when I’ve got six people daily sabotaging it {i.e. actually wearing & dirtying those clothes!}  But I’m learning that some things can wait.  I don’t need to get the laundry folded and put away right away, I’ll get to it when I have a moment. I can dvr a show and watch it at a more convenient time then it’s original airtime {perhaps while folding my foe, the laundry, and accomplishing #3 – see below}.  My mom can wait on a returned phone call until I have a moment to think.  We live in a ‘I want it NOW!’ society, which is sometimes such a blessing {high speed internet? Genius}, but can also bully us into thinking we have to do it NOW!  Take a deep breath, decide if it is really important, and if it is not, let it wait.

2. Do little things as you go.

I’m the visual type.  The way spaces look make a big difference to me and how I function in them.  When the kitchen looks like a bomb went off in it, I don’t enjoy making dinner for my family.  If my bed isn’t made, I don’t feel like I have a handle on my day.  When my car is littered with trash, you know I’ve been a busy girl {or that my kids are not picking up after themselves :}.  I find that it helps to do little things as I go to keep my home more visually pleasing and therefore allowing me to function in it more effectively.

So I try to load the dishwasher after each meal {which also avoids having to scrub the dickens out of the crusted-on oatmeal}.  We keep a basket on the stairs to collect all the random toys and trinkets that find their way out of the playroom to the downstairs. Throughout the day when I see something that belongs upstairs, I’ll toss it in the basket.  Once it gets full I take it upstairs and we put the things in their correct places.  When I get the mail {perhaps my favorite time of the day – I really love mail} I sort through and toss the junk mail into the recycling so that it doesn’t clutter up my life.

Little things make a big difference. So cheesy, but it really is true.  When tasks are broken down into smaller pieces, they don’t seem quite so big.

3. Multitask.

I’m sure I’m preaching to the choir on this one since women seem to be the masters of multitasking, but do your best to always do two menial things at once.  Load the dishwasher while your english muffin is toasting, talk with your girlfriend on the phone while you are driving {with a headset, of course, and only if you can do it safely!}, compose a blog post while you are nursing your baby {I’ve become quite talented at one-handed typing}, write a thank you note while waiting at the doctor’s office.

You can certainly take multitasking too far, which I’m not recommending. For example, don’t check your email while your child is trying to tell you about his day {not that I’ve actually done this:} or go outside to water the plants while sautéing onions {again, not me!}.  Be careful that you don’t sacrifice your priorities {or your safety} with something that can wait.

Multitasking is a challenging balance but can be so practical if done effectively.

4. Stay focused when it matters most.

Sometimes you need to complete a project that requires your full attention {filling business orders, taking important phone calls}. This is not the time to multitask.  Not only will you be more effective in what you are doing, but the quality of your work will show when your attention is not being pulled in a million different directions. Silence your cell phone, turn off the radio, and get rid of any distractions.  This may require some pre-planning {see #6}, but you’ll be thankful in the end.

5. Delegate & ask for help {and then accept it}.

I’m just going to admit right here that I am terrible at this one.  You know that kid in school who took on the entire group project alone? That was me.  I like things done a certain way and sometimes {okay, most of the time} I’d rather just do it myself than deal with the alternative.  But I have a lot of children and a husband and friends and a big house and I’m not able to do it alone. Remember what we talked about up there? I CAN NOT DO IT ALL. I think we should add ALONE to the end of that statement.

So have your kids make their own beds {and just deal with the fact that the sheets are not straight}.  Ask a friend to bring an appetizer to your dinner party.  Trade babysitting with another family.

We were created to live in community with others and will be much happier, effective ladies if we stop trying to do it all alone and start to ask for help.  Plus, we may find extra time to do what we enjoy when the less-enjoyable tasks are spread around.

6. Create a schedule.

Obviously, having a daily schedule helps immensely with day-to-day time management.  Children respond well to having a routine, and adults do as well.  I’m all for a daily schedule, but I also appreciate some flexibility when an opportunity comes around. I’m not a ‘wake up at 7:02, breakfast at 7:08’ type of scheduler, so I won’t claim to be an expert on daily calendaring.  But I will say that making {and keeping} a schedule will allow you to decide what you do and don’t want to be part of your day.  One thing that may help is for you to write down everything you do in a day. Once you see it all on paper, you’ll be able to figure out if there are things you can cut, what is most important to you and where you spend your time.

In terms of scheduling larger projects, I do have some experience with that.

My busiest time for my business is Christmas card season. To say I become overwhelmed during the holiday months is an understatement.  But as my husband has taught me {and has to re-teach me each year}, breaking up a large project into small pieces is the most effective way to tackle it.  So start at the end {the deadline, goal, etc.} and work backward. Figure out what needs to be accomplished and break each task into do-able chunks. Give yourself one or two tasks per day, write them down on a calendar, then stick to it.

It is helpful to plan for a buffer day or two.  By scheduling projects this way, you will have peace in knowing you don’t need to finish the entire project in one day and you can move on with the other important aspects of your daily life.  The best part? If you keep to your schedule, you will finish it by the deadline without {too much} stress.

7. Limit tv watching and internet searching.

I like my tv shows {Project Runway, Survivor, Monday Night Football – yes, you read that right} and I certainly enjoy looking around on the internet {did you see my blog post on a few of my favorite blogs?}. But just like the sweets that I crave, too much of a good thing can be bad.  The problem with tv watching is that it sucks you in and before you know it, 3 hours have passed.  The same goes with reading blogs or updating your status on Facebook or shopping online.  Its amazing how much time can go by without even realizing it.

If you are wanting to free up some time in your day to pursue your creative ideas, I’m guessing these two time-suckers will have to be limited.

8. Let go of guilt.

Part of managing your time means letting some things go.  There’s a trade-off, remember?  When I want to get dinner made, I often turn on a kid show to entertain my kids. Is tv watching the best form of entertainment for those three little boys? Absolutely not. Should I feel guilty about using it to distract them? I chose not to.  Life is about balance and sometimes you just have to do the best you can with what you’ve got and not feel bad about it in the end.

9. Grab hold of the really valuable moments.

When it all comes down to it, we must remember what is really important.  As I was writing this , my baby girl woke in the middle of her nap.  So I walked upstairs, held her in my arms and rocked her back to sleep.  My head was fully in ‘work mode’ and I really didn’t want to be bothered. But my heart adores that baby and the best place for me in that moment was cuddling and comforting her.

Remember the Bible story of Mary & Martha?

Luke 10:38As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. 39She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to what he said. 40But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, “Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!”

41“Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, 42but only one thing is needed.[f] Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.”

I think that sums it up perfectly. We need to choose what is better. We can not do it all. We must make little choices daily, little sacrifices, let some things go, allow for messes and unfinished projects and dirty bathrooms and too many kid shows and in the end, know that  grace is what gets us through.

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72 Responses to time

  1. Pamela Abeyta January 18, 2014 at 2:51 pm #

    I recently started following you. I love you love of life, family and Jesus. Simply put your creativity is inspiring as it reflects the great Creator. Thank you.

    God bless,

    • emily January 19, 2014 at 2:20 pm #

      Thanks Pamela!

  2. Tiffany February 2, 2012 at 8:31 am #

    Great post, I really need to work on # 7 & #9! Found your blog through ‘A Holy Experience’. Have you posted any pics from your homeschool room? I would love to see what you’ve decided to do. I’m having a difficult time keeping mine from looking like a cluttered mess and am looking for ideas.

  3. Barbara July 27, 2011 at 9:01 am #

    I was sometimes overwhelmed with two little ones…I don’t know how you do it with four! Congratulations. I was able to grow my last business, working from the home. I scheduled time each day with the sitter and tried to stay as focused as possible on work-work, during that time. When the sitter wasn’t there, I was still able to get some work done and the kids knew to be quiet, early on, when I said “business call”. I think, as a young mother, you have to keep reassessing your priorities. A family is like a delicate mobile. If one person isn’t happy, everything gets out of balance and balance is so important! Stop doing everything for your kids! A 2 year old can dress themselves, believe it or not. It may not be the outfit you would have picked, but it will free you up to do something else. Don’t underestimate their capabilities. Not only will it free you up, but empower them! And you’re right…you can’t do it all!

  4. Abbey Lewis February 12, 2011 at 8:22 am #

    I know that this post/workshop was done a long time ago, but I just read it and it could not have come open to me at a better time! I am a somewhat newly made SAHM… I loved my career but found that it was putting a severe wedge between me and my family! I love staying at home but also find that I feel, at times, like I still don’t have enough time to do all that I want in the way or manner that I want! Thank you so much for putting into words how I feel and for letting me know that I am not alone… far from it!!! Your blog and business is amazing and very inspiring! Thanks for all you do!

  5. Kathleen January 27, 2011 at 9:52 pm #

    Thank you so much for this post. I feel like I am constantly failing between a buys house and working full time. But this post showed me that just because we are down to the last pair of socks, I am not a failure. Our Home is constantly filled with fellowship in the form of many types of gatherings. I needed to see that as success, not just the fact that I have a large laundry pile as a result. Thank You!

  6. Krissie January 18, 2011 at 12:00 pm #

    Thanks so much…. I just transitioned to working from home, and although I don’t have kids right now, I know I will in the not too distant future. I’ve been struggling to figure out the work from home thing, I’ve only been doing it for a few weeks now. I didn’t realize how much of an adjustment it would be. So great to get some advice! Very helpful!

  7. Amy January 17, 2011 at 9:56 am #

    Fabulous post and an EXCELLENT point. I’d love to print one of the signs but I seem to be computer illiterate-when I click on the image to download I just get a larger version of it. What am I doing wrong?

  8. Ashley January 12, 2011 at 11:27 pm #

    Emily, where did you get these printables???

  9. brittney/milmomma January 9, 2011 at 6:27 am #

    I know its tough to say it but thanks for writing this post. Its nice to read that I’m not the only imperfect person. Okay back to trying to be supermom/wife/etc. ;) [sometimes I feel I should have a costume!]

  10. shawna [of styleberryBLOG] December 16, 2010 at 11:28 am #

    I feel like you took words right out of my mouth! Eerily like the thoughts running through my head right now… Thank you for this post & the gentle reminder…that we cannot do it all. :)

  11. Chantel December 16, 2010 at 8:45 am #

    I needed this today. I’m mastering the one-handed typing and find going through Google Reader when breastfeeding is pretty nice. Thanks for the post!

  12. Eryn Kesler November 4, 2010 at 5:07 pm #

    So, I’m catching up on some of your older posts. LOVE this one. just a few weeks ago, I enrolled my formerly homeschooled kindergartener in the school down the street. It felt really good to release myself from that expectation, and the Lord has blessed us and our boy is THRIVING there!

    So, I’ve been looking for a new fantastic monthly day planner, and am coming up short. Nothing is cute. What do you use? Have you made your own, or fancied up a boring one?

  13. Stacey October 26, 2010 at 11:59 am #

    Well, I just discovered your blog site today and found this particular treasure of a post. I’m not sure if you’ll ever get to see this comment, however, I wanted to say thank you so much for this! I’m only in my second year of marriage, we’re in the process of buying our first home, and we’re trying to have a baby. I work full time, as does my husband, and I struggle constantly with not being able to figure out how to find time for me in the few hours after each day’s work, without feeling insanely guilty or like I’d be neglecting my husband (he puts no guilt on me, by the way. i do a great job of that on my own!). I plan on printing out your super sweet list and poster tonight at home as gentle reminders of how important it is that I find what I love to do and pursue it without fear (or too much fear, anyways. =] ). I actually sent this link to a few friends, too, who have the same problem.
    Can’t wait to look through your other posts! Thanks so much again!

  14. Jordan October 3, 2010 at 2:08 pm #

    Thanks SO much for this reminder when I needed it most. Amazing when God puts things in your life in the most unexpected ways, times and places.

  15. courtney September 14, 2010 at 7:19 pm #

    love the post! adding your I CAN NOT DO IT ALL to my KEEP CALM AND CARRY ON…conquering the world one powerful phrase at a time! :)

  16. Stephanie September 14, 2010 at 9:12 am #

    Know how I mentioned I couldn’t get a handle on where I started? Well I wanted to comment right away before losing track. I just finished reading the rest of this post and can’t believe how beautiful the message was. What a wonderful job you do being you.

  17. Stephanie September 14, 2010 at 9:03 am #

    I wish I could remember how I stumbled upon your website. I have had a blast looking through all your posts and wanted to say thank you for sharing. I also wanted to thank you for this post and sharing Seleta with me. I have a long list of blogs I check daily and try not to add new ones, but your mention of her famiy photo had me curious. I wanted to look at it and figured that would be the end of it. Boy was I wrong, I not only got totally caught up in it, but also her about me and her posts. Now a full HOUR later I’m back here trying to remember where I started. Thank you so very much for sharing a wondeful new design blogger.

  18. hillary September 12, 2010 at 12:35 pm #

    did you really say “scrub the dickens?!” love it!

  19. Tessa September 10, 2010 at 7:41 pm #

    Emily, I believe I’ve found your signature scent…Kate Spade has just launched a whole “twirl” line of products. Thought of you when I saw it. Ha! :) http://www.katespade.com/home/index.jsp

  20. Lacretia September 10, 2010 at 7:06 pm #


    THANK YOU so much for this! I smiled, laughed and cried while reading it. This is something I often struggle with, including yesterday when I was in my pajamas and I looked out my window to see you walking to the bus stop PERFECTLY put together so early in the morning. I hope that we can get to know each other better. You are amazing and I envy you in every way possible!


  21. Danielle September 10, 2010 at 6:00 pm #

    So ironic that you referenced the Martha & Mary story, a few weeks ago it was a reading at church, and I while I’ve heard it many times, for some reason a real light went off and I’ve been contemplating it since, and then it’s here with your lovely post. Someone’s telling me something ;)
    With a busy career and even busier family life, I’m constantly my biggest critic when it comes to all the tasks that need my attention, and oddly enough it’s refreshing to hear someone else say all the things I’ve been saying to myself all these years…thanks for a great post!

  22. Jennifer September 10, 2010 at 12:22 pm #

    I think you are my long lost twin….I totally relate to your post and laughed out loud at parts of it because it sounds as if I could have written it! Thank you for this today…for reminding me of what’s important and that it’s not trying to be “superwoman”!

  23. Britny September 10, 2010 at 12:05 pm #

    Thank you! Thank you!! It is so refreshing to know that I am not alone! I love your comment about the mail! Hilarious! I am the same way! Thanks for all the encouraging words! LOVE your blog!

  24. tiffany day September 10, 2010 at 8:57 am #

    hi emily

    thank you for this – great reminders and good ideas!

    i appreciate you sharing your heart – being a mom is one of the best things in life!

    have a great weekend


  25. kwana September 10, 2010 at 8:37 am #

    Wonderful thoughts. Thank you.

  26. Caroline September 9, 2010 at 8:17 pm #

    Seriously. Thank you for posting this. This is definitely one of my biggest mental obstacles. I have these grand plans and ideas that pull me in every direction at once. I have a GIANT to do list for my house, baby, marriage, self, friends, family, etc. and I never get .01 percent of that list done. It discourages and depresses me.

    Lately, I’ve been writing out daily to do lists with the following heading, “What can I REASONABLY accomplish today?” and then I limit myself to 10 bullet points. I may not get it all done, but at least I get most of it done and I feel like I did something worthwhile with my day.

    Thanks for the tips and encouragement. I enjoy your blog!

    • emily September 9, 2010 at 9:52 pm #

      Good tip. I like that … “what can I REASONABLY do today” …

  27. Caroline September 9, 2010 at 8:13 pm #

    Seriously. Thank you for posting this. It’s a good reminder. I have this GIANT to do list of things that I want to accomplish for my house, my baby, myself, my marriage, my family, my friends. It overwhelms me. I never feel like I’m accomplishing .01 percent of what I want done and then I get really, really frustrated with myself. Lately, I’ve been writing out daily to do lists. At the top, I write “What can I REASONABLY accomplish today?” and then I make myself stop if I get to 10 things. I may not accomplish everything on that list every day, but at least I accomplish most of it.

    Enjoy your blog. Thanks!

  28. Malinda September 9, 2010 at 6:39 pm #

    LOVED this post. Thanks for sharing. Very much looking forward to the workshop!

    • emily September 9, 2010 at 9:53 pm #

      Well, I can’t wait to have you!

  29. katherine September 9, 2010 at 6:17 pm #

    i just loved this post…. no kids yet, but such great thoughts even for just a working wife. thanks for pointing us to christ! im so glad to have stumbled across your blog from seleta’s.


  30. Lauren September 9, 2010 at 5:56 pm #

    Bless you heart, Emily…I swear you can read my mind sometimes! Thank you so much for just taking the time to write all that down. Most of those tips are so easy and common sense, but I tend to lose them in the day-to-day shuffle. Sometimes, its just helpful to hear what you already know from someone else. So thanks..I needed that:)

  31. Brittany (aka Pretty Handy Girl) September 9, 2010 at 1:22 pm #

    I am so grateful for you taking the time to write this. Your words spoke volumes to me and how I feel about my work, life and family balance. I feel better now ;-)


  32. Brittany (aka Pretty Handy Girl) September 9, 2010 at 1:22 pm #

    I am so grateful for you taking the time to write this. Your words spoke volumes to me and how I feel about my work, life and family balance. I feel better now ;-)


  33. Brittany (aka Pretty Handy Girl) September 9, 2010 at 1:22 pm #

    I am so grateful for you taking the time to write this. Your words spoke volumes to me and how I feel about my work, life and family balance. I feel better now ;-)


  34. Chelsey Ercanbrack September 9, 2010 at 12:50 pm #

    Love this post. Love your blog. Love your style. I love you…and I don’t even “know” you. Way to go!!
    I am so downloading that print…it’s too perfect for me!

    • emily September 9, 2010 at 9:54 pm #

      Chelsey – you are so cute. Thanks for ‘loving’ me.

  35. Ms. Bright September 9, 2010 at 12:26 pm #

    This post brilliantly puts all the things I already know, but need to remember in one place. I’m often overwhelmed and need reminding that I can’t do it all, even when I want to.
    You sound so much like me, except with a better grasp on this list!! Ha!
    I want to do it all and well. I want it NOW! I am terrible at delegating. If only I could be a bit more like Mary.

    I am so encouraged to read that even those who seem to have it all together don’t neccessarily!

    I have downloaded and bookmarked and also forwarded to my mom to read. She said- “That sounds just like you!”

    Thank you for this post Emily, thank you thank you thank you…from the bottom of my heart.

  36. Darlene Weir September 9, 2010 at 11:50 am #

    LOVING your blog. So glad I found it!! Thanks for the printable. Sigh. cannot do it all… trying to accept it!

  37. Robyn Hollas September 9, 2010 at 11:35 am #

    I love this post. It makes me feel that there are others like me out there. I work full-time (with a commute), try to raise my children as best as I can & take care of the husband & home. It is very overwhelming at times. I will bookmark this & go back to it often.


  38. Heather September 9, 2010 at 11:27 am #

    I’ve homeschooled for nine years! It all falls into place! But no, you simply can not do it all, but it’s okay!

  39. Katie @ Yoga Gal September 9, 2010 at 11:23 am #


    This really is what I needed this week. I had a couple of days this week where I was really sad and discouraged because I felt like I could not do anything right. All I was trying to do was keep the house clean and with 2 kids and a hairy dog, I fight an uphill battle. I put such pressure on myself to create a safe and happy and comfortable home for my family, but in putting such pressure on myself, I was terribly unhappy, which made them unhappy. I am going to email this to my husband because you explained it so much better than I could. Thank you!

    • emily September 9, 2010 at 9:57 pm #

      Katie: I’m so glad this spoke to you. We all put WAY too much pressure on ourselves and I hope this encouraged you to give yourself a little more grace tomorrow. Blessings to you!

  40. Renae September 9, 2010 at 10:48 am #

    LOVE the I can not do it all print…any chance you’ll do it in hot pink?! :) Great post today Emily! My girlfriends would chant, “Amen Sister!”

  41. Jillana September 9, 2010 at 10:44 am #

    As a snapshot fo things to come…now I’m even more excited for the workshop!! Thank you for the salient reminders and I look forward to more!

  42. Laura September 9, 2010 at 10:40 am #

    So true! Thanks for sharing and reminding us of these things. It helps to hear it and see it written down. You are so right…we are pushed as women to be perfect and it’s just not a reality. Do the best you can!

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  43. Lindsay Kinnick September 9, 2010 at 10:11 am #

    MMM…I love this. It is completely inspiring. My thoughts are all over the place thinking about my time. Where to major? Where to minor? Where is God calling me to put my time? What creative things could I invest in?

    I just walked away from discussing with my husband what my life could look like–where might my strengths be? Of course, you and your latest blog came up. After talking for awhile, he smiled and said, “I’d love to meet the man behind her”. From my own experience, it takes a supportive and encouraging man behind a wife to bring out her creativity and ability to raise her family and use the giftings God has given her. I think of the many creative things the woman in Provers 31 did. I would be willing to bet that her husband cheered her on when she created the many beautiful things to sell and to adorn her home. I imagine him speaking well of her at the city gate. I know my husband affirms me when I talk of my desires and my creative thirst (all the while seeking God to guide me in where I go with them).

    SO, all that to say, knowing of course that there IS a demand for your time and thousands of things yet to blog about, could we hear about your husband? Who is the man behind you? What has this journey with him been like as you’ve discussed where your time goes (homeschooling vs. the creative blog/shop)?

    Novel complete. *grin*. THanks for your patience in reading this! I hope you have a most enjoyable and restful day. And I won’t be offended if you find you have other priorities over this request!

    PS. THank you for honoring Christ with your post! (Mary & Martha thoughts)

  44. MandeeFoFandee September 9, 2010 at 9:34 am #

    wow, this is such an amazing post! I wish someone had told me all of this years ago… I sure would have saved myself a lot of stress! everything makes sense, and it sounds like it will lead to a much more balanced lifestyle. thanks for writing!

  45. Sandra September 9, 2010 at 9:20 am #

    I will be posting the print on my Fridge :) Thanks

  46. Shannon September 9, 2010 at 8:29 am #

    I really loved this post. My husband and I are only just starting our family – but even without children I still have moments of being overwhelmed and feeling like I am not living up to expectations {that are clearly only in my head}. It’s always encouraging to realize that I’m not along like this!

  47. Rachel @ La Bella Bungalow September 9, 2010 at 8:12 am #

    Thanks for this Emily! It’s just what I needed. Such wise words and they couldn’t have come at a better time.

  48. Rachel Gill September 9, 2010 at 8:11 am #

    Thanks for this Emily. Such wise words. This couldn’t have come at a better time for me.

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  49. Shelle September 9, 2010 at 7:37 am #

    I love this post. I know most of it -and have to be reminded about all of it. Thank you!!!

  50. Lindsay Lee September 9, 2010 at 7:17 am #

    Oh my gosh Emily! This is amazing and something I have been struggling with! THANK YOU!

  51. Ellen C September 9, 2010 at 6:42 am #

    Thanks for this post! I think all women/moms need to read this and remind themselves that they can’t do it all. I am a new mom who just started back to work last week and am working on learning the balancing act of this. Time with baby, work, time for self and with hubby, all the household needs, errands, etc. It is a lot, and I am very Type A so I am trying to remind myself each day that I am not wonderwoman and don’t need to do everything or do it perfectly, just the most important things.

  52. Shannon September 9, 2010 at 6:16 am #

    Great article! I feel very similar – especially about the mail and the immediate recycling and the basket to help with the upstairs/downstairs stuff issues.

    I will take a download, TYVM!

  53. Christy September 9, 2010 at 6:03 am #


    What a great post with such valuable advice and tips!!! I am off to make copies now… thank you!!!

  54. Meg September 9, 2010 at 6:01 am #

    Dang. How long did that take to write that? Good job though…it made complete sense and was put just the write way. Hope your coffee is perfect today!

  55. Ms. Bright September 9, 2010 at 5:50 am #

    This post brilliantly put all the things I know, but just need to remember, in one place. You sound so much like me, except you definitely seem to have a better grasp on this list!! I am very much the girl who has to try to do it all and well. I don’t delegate well at all. Laundry is by far my biggest enemy and there’s only 2 of us! Ha!
    If only I could be more like Mary.

    Thank you Emily. Thank you so much.

  56. denise September 9, 2010 at 5:32 am #

    emily, you are truly a talented woman. I loved every word I read. thank you so much from moms & women everywhere!
    Can’t wait to print the yellow sign! thanks for that reminder :) -denise

  57. Jennifer September 9, 2010 at 5:10 am #

    I Can Not Do It All!! Love those prints, such a good reminder. Thanks for your tips, Emily!

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