Remember when my baby girl was this little?
Many of you have been reading the blog from the very beginning and have watched Audrey grow from in my belly to now – a sweet, funny, cheerful, sometimes-bossy almost eight-year-old.
Audrey’s hair is one of her prettiest features. It has always been very thick and gorgeous, with natural highlights and some wave in the back.
As this girl has gotten older, her hair has become wavier. I used to say that she had my exact hair (thick, long, with some natural wave to it), but hers has surpassed mine in the wavy factor. And I love it!
But I don’t really know what to do with it.
Our main problem is that the top portion of her hair is fairly straight, while underneath it is beautifully wavy. When I try to dry it straight, the back just doesn’t want to comply. When I brush it, it gets very fluffy and if I don’t brush it, it gets very tangly.
A few weeks ago, I posted this video to my Instagram stories to see if any ig friends could help:
I was so surprised by how many suggestion and comments I received.
Out of the 200ish comments, about half of them had great ideas for products and techniques for enhancing her natural wave (thank you to everyone who left a message!).
The other half were from women who either needed the same advice for their daughters’ hair OR they needed it for their own!
It seems this ‘what to do with wavy hair?’ question is a common one.
I promised I would give an update and share the suggestions and even though we haven’t really figured out our perfect hair solution, I ordered a handful of products (and a book!) to try and I’m happy to show you what we’re trying.
The overwhelming response from the Instagram messages was to let her hair airdry. Apparently, terrycloth towels are terrible for curly/wavy hair and many suggested drying with a t-shirt or pillowcase. We haven’t tried either, but I do use a cotton Turkish towel on her hair and that seems to work okay.
So many people said “THROW THE BRUSH AWAY!” and just use fingers to comb throw her hair. I haven’t quite listened to that suggestion because the girl has some tangly hair. Instead, we’ve been brushing through her hair while she’s in the shower – first putting a generous amount of conditioner on the ends and getting all the tangles out before she comes out of the shower. After a couple of days without washing or brushing, I just put her hair up in a ponytail or topknot and hide the tangly/frizziness.
Everyone has their own favorites and there were literally hundreds of suggestions for favorite products. I decided to give four different types a try.
Gel: Deva Curl was a brand that kept coming up and after looking into it a little bit, I decided to try their light defining gel. You put it on while the hair is super wet, let it air dry and then comb through once dry (with fingers!) to remove the coating and reduce that crunchy texture. This blog post is super helpful in explaining how to use it.
Mousse: A friend suggested this inexpensive Frizz-Ease styling foam. You scrunch on damp hair and let air dry.
Spray: I bought this Curl Booster spray to help reduce frizz. I haven’t tried it on Audrey’s hair yet, but I now use it on mine :)
Oil: Both Audrey and I have dry hair and my plan is to add in extra moisture with this Moroccan Oil. I’m not sure how often to use this? Still figuring that out …
Before sending out that Instagram story and then researching the products and resources everyone suggested, I had no idea there was a whole genre of curly hair blogs and books. It’s fascinating!
So many people suggested looking into the Curly Girl Method. They have a facebook page and this Curly Girl Handbook.
I haven’t read through it all yet, but the parts I have read, it is very informative. If you have curly hair, or your daughter does, and you don’t know what to do with it, this book is a great resource.
Another friend (hi Kimberly!) suggested this blog post about how to get frizz-free waves and it was super helpful.
What Audrey probably needed most of all was a good haircut. I took her to my favorite hair stylist a few days ago and had a couple of inches cut off. But most importantly, we had long layers added in to help with the weight.
Our hairstylist spent the time drying Audrey’s hair straight and it was so silky and pretty. We haven’t washed it and let it be wavy yet, so I’m looking forward to seeing how her waves work out with her new haircut.
We’re on our way to enhancing her wavy hair and hopefully, this info is helpful for the wavy-haired beauties in your life as well.